I finally got to hold my book in my hands and read through it!!!! It’s so exciting that I have no words. Few more tweaks and it’ll be ready to go in the next couple of days!!! I’m taking pre-orders up until I place the final big order. It could be as soon as tomorrow night! Ahh!
Once it’s done, it’ll be released for purchase on Amazon. This journey has been amazing but I can’t wait to be done!
Today, I watched another family say goodbye to someone else lost way too soon. I struggled with the decision to allow my daughter to say goodbye to a teacher she loved. She was faced with the death of her father way too early in life, and it became a normal part of her world. I strongly believe in allowing her to learn, understand and grieve as she chooses. I believe death is a part of life and won’t hide that from her. I agreed to allow her the closure she was asking for. I’m so proud of my girl for insisting she get to honor him, and support his loved ones today. It brought up a lot of old pain and feelings for me. Still, I’m happy with the decision I made. She certainly isn’t your average 5 year old. She amazes me every day, and so much more today seeing how loving, caring and mature she is. Tonight I’m thinking about what it’s like when everything is over. The funeral is done, and everyone is going back to their normal lives. That’s when reality sets in and the ones close have to find their new “normal.” Tonight, I’m thinking about them. Life is short. Hold your loved ones close. I’m incredibly lucky to have my chapter two and I promise not to take that for granted.
Here it is!! The first look at the cover! After everything is reviewed, I should be able to order my proof tonight. I cannot wait to hold it in my hands!
Though the Indiegogo campaign officially ended overnight last night, I was able to keep it up without a timeframe. There is still time to pre-order! Once it is officially released, I will take down the page and replace with an Amazon link. Thank you all for supporting my dream!
It’s been a crazy weekend here in California and it’s still going! For those that don’t know, I have so much going on. I thrive on the madness and there are so many things I want to accomplish in life. You only live once and there are so many things I want to experience. I’ve been juggling a lot! I’m on the other side of the country for a conference for my business and it’s been inspiring! I love what I do and it’s only made it more exciting. My direct sales involvement was truly a life line for me in the beginning. It got me out of my shell (my widow bubble,) brought new friends into my life, gave me goals to work toward, plus fun! (And a little extra money.) I could go on forever!
While here, I’ve been emailing back and forth getting the final book touches done. It’s so cool to see it LOOK like a book! There are only 3 days left on my Indiegogo campaign and I’m at 95%!!! I need some help hitting my goal. Click that photo on the side to help me out!
I’m excited to get back home to finish up the book, meet more goals with my business, and there are so many exciting things coming with Ignite Your Light! Plus, I cannot wait to see my little girl after being away from her this weekend!!
I’m headed to the beach real quick (my happy place) and then flying back late at night! Check out the fun…. and I’ll catch ya when I get back!
Alexa has been more and more interested about learning about her dad. Early on in the journey, I packed up a bin labeled “Alex.” At this point, I wasn’t even really sure what I had put in there. We opened it this weekend. She was excited to see a special rubix cube, origami items he made and put all over her incubator in the hospital, his hat, a blanket made from his shirts, stuffed animals we had gotten each other… She went through and looked at everything. There were items from my wedding, old photos, his baby book… all kinds of random things. Many items, I was ready to allow Alexa to take and do whatever she wanted with them. Some, I still felt needed to be packed away again. I am at a place in life where I do not want my wedding photo displayed. I don’t want reminders of him all over the house. I will not, however, tell her she cannot have these items displayed in her room. That’s her territory and I believe she should be able to memorialize him however she wants there. She doesn’t remember him. But this is a way she can connect, and “know” him. It’s nice to see her happy and excited about it. These items don’t hold sadness or pain for her. She looks so cute in his hat…
I received this message from someone close to me this evening. I didn’t know anything about it. I don’t even know his name. Here is my response…
“Didn’t know about it.”
“Without any details, I’m tempted to say that facing charges, jail time and all that, I can see why someone would do that. I could see that people will paint him as evil and say ‘problem solved’ or ‘he deserved it’ or whatever. Still, he has a family I’m sure. He has a mom. He has people that love him and I hurt for them.”
Ignite Your Inner Leader
What does that mean?
Almost a year ago, I heard about a seminar called “Ignite Your Inner Leader.” Sounds like it’s about leadership, right? I could use that! I was in a leadership role in my direct sales company. I’m a mom (that’s a leader, right?) I have multiple “jobs” that could use improved leadership skills. Plus, I heard you get to walk on glass! That could be cool! I also heard someone proposed at the last one. This must really be the experience of a lifetime. I had always been labeled by others as “a leader” but what does that mean? I wanted to figure it out.
I had decided to do the next upcoming seminar! I felt as though I was unsure of my place in the world. I had been working my same job for the past 7 years, and though it was what I always planned on doing with my life, I wanted so much more. I had been in the direct sales world for the past 4ish years and while it was going well, it was not exactly where I wanted to be. I dabbled in other things as well, but nothing that was really a main focus. Really, I was all over the place. I was single when I made the decision to register . Sidenote: there was a huge lapse in my writing so those that do not know me personally, do not know the whole story. I’ll summarize it with saying, my relationship failed, my boyfriend left, and Alexa and I were living in “our house” and I was figuring out life on my own yet again. My home became a business. My direct sales companies had taken over rooms, time, life. I was dabbling in ways to improve myself and my life.
The goal was to figure out what I was doing with MY life. In the time between signing up for the seminar and the weekend finally arriving, life had already changed so much! Jewelry In Candles (the company I was known for) closed, and I was sent to a new company to start fresh. Lularoe had taken over so much of my time and house and life that it had become a burden, not an excitement. After 6 months of separation, many ups and downs, and figuring things out, we made the decision to rebuild our relationship. Life was changing fast! I couldn’t wait to see what the seminar would bring.
It started with “why are you here?”
“Learn more about why I do the things I do. What direction I’m supposed to take. I have many goals and dreams but don’t know what I really want. I have to many “jobs” but don’t know where the focus should be. I want to lead my team to success. I’ve made so many positive changes to my life and I want to continue. I want to inspire people. I want to use my trauma to make a difference. I want to make his life worth something. I want to learn to help balance motherhood with my career and relationship.”
I got that, and so much more!
Yes, I learned about leadership. More importantly, I learned so much about myself, my patterns, what I really wanted out of life, what was important to me in a fulfilling career, what I wanted out of my relationship. I learned how to communicate more effectively with my child and my partner. I figured out exactly what I wanted out of life and how to get there. I learned invaluable coaching skills. I appreciated things in life more. I literally had no idea I was holding onto past trauma from Alex and putting it on my daughter. I could write an entire post about just that revelation. I quickly, with the help of amazing people there, figured out how to work past that. I discovered things from my marriage that were affecting my relationship. I discovered things I was not understanding about “my ideal” versus reality. I learned how to understand my significant other better, even with having significantly different life experiences and communication styles. And yes, I walked on glass, and bent rebar with my throat!
I made more progress in life in 3 days, than in years. I’m forever grateful for the experience.
Did you know that all human behavior is driven by six human needs? Did you know that all behaviors are driven by the avoidance of pain and the desire of pleasure? I didn’t…
Have you ever thought to yourself “am I enough?” Sure you have.
Way back when, I wrote a post about the ambulance situation from the night Alex died. I called 911, EMS arrived, he was pronounced, ambulance took me to the ER for my blood pressure. There was a mess when it came to the bill. His insurance was billed for the ambulance, as was mine. It was all sorted out years ago..
Today, mail arrived from Delmarva Emergency Services, addressed to me, at my old address. I no longer have mail forwarding, however since I live right around the corner, the post office has been gracious enough to “manually” forward it, since they know who it is.
It was a check for $16, with the date of service listed as 12/31/12, the night he died… 5 years later, I’m getting 16 bucks back? I have no explanation.
It seems very odd to me that it came on a day that I’ve spent working on the book and blog? A sign? Maybe… but a sign of what?
At first glance, I thought the Refund number was his DOB. I saw 7/6/84… He was born in 83, I’m 84. Haha.
DOVER — On New Year’s Eve five years ago, Heather Cruz’s husband, Alexander, killed himself. He was 29 years old. Ms. Cruz didn’t see it coming. “I knew my husband as well as anyone knows their spouse — I had no idea,” she said. “I couldn’t have ever imagined he would do it. You can …